cover images/themes

words/themes/titles

• just the way I am
• we are enough
• beyond acceptance
• beyond shame​
• a life of my own
• a mind of my own
• dysmorphia
• silver linings
• unconditioned
• more than our roles
• ain't no shame in being born a woman​
• let it be ​

• enough
• I am enough
• ​I was always enough
• if not now, when?
• five letter words
• the roots of shame
• ​female shame
• ​is this all it is
  

​Shame is a 5-letter word that feels like a 4-letter word

Surviving the Sixties . . . the decade, the age
A belated coming of age memoir

It's never too late to become the woman you were meant to be . . . 
the woman you've hidden from

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“I often read about how people who have lost significant amounts of weight get treated differently, and are received in a more positive light, even by total strangers, than they did when they were a bigger size,” she says. “I think that sadly speaks to a pervasive cultural obsession with thinness – no matter what spin the media puts on it.”

​Weight loss is still viewed as a bizarre moral good that people “should” aim for.
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November 28, 2022​, VICE

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5-letter words:

• shame
• guilt
• woman
• sugar
• anger
• smart
• guile
• funny
• crone
• bitch
• labor
• ​obese
• ​gross
  

It's Not About Bob

The Marriage Contract . . .
when it's terms are:

• unspoken
• unwritten
• unexpressed
• ​separately assumed

my third marriage, only wedding, arranged by Mom, my two kids, his two boys, I'm 3 plus months pregnant at 44.

eldest son Fred 18 with sister Carolanne.

“..we were always taught, instead of waiting to be swept off our feet, to 'expect little, forgive much'.” 
― Helen Fielding, Bridget Jones's Diary

“I realize it has become too easy to find a diet to fit in with whatever you happen to feel like eating and that diets are not there to be picked and mixed but picked and stuck to, which is exactly what I shall begin to do once I've eaten this chocolate croissant.” 
― Helen Fielding, Bridget Jones's Diary

​“I like you very much. Just as you are.” 
― Helen Fielding, Bridget Jones's Diary

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